Stress Poslerazvodny

O te akoranga, whakarere - Ko he ati nui mo te whānau katoa tenei, e kore e anake hoki te tane me te wahine, engari ano mo ratou tamariki, ngā mātua, me te tahi atu whanaunga tata. Ko te whakaari nui kei te haere i runga i ki te tangata e ko ia anake, e haere, ahakoa (ahakoa hinga atu maha wahine ki te āhuatanga taua) tane ranei wahine. Te faataaraa - Ko e kore anake te mate tūturu o te utuafare, te mokemoke, engari ano hoki he rota o te ahotea ki te tinana, me te pūnaha io. I muri i nga mau fifi katoa o te wehenga: te kākā, whakaitinga, "te arotake i", wehenga o taonga, te hātepe ture - no te rave rahi marama tonu, a ētahi wā nui roa, a kua huaina te mea ko, i roto i te "tohu teitei". Na i muri i tenei katoa, e hiahia ana koe ki te "tango ki runga ki a ratou ano" a roto i te ora ia rā, me te i roto i te tikanga hinengaro, e kore ki usuguit āhuatanga, e kore e ki te taka ki roto ki te whārua nui, me te ngana ki te āta timata ki te hanga i to ratou oraraa.

Ko te wāhi tuatahi: ko te hiahia ki te āta hinengaro huihuia e ratou ki te meka e te faataaraa - he kore noa he ati e taea te mohio a te reira rite etahi he wā o te ora, i te mea i runga i a whakawātea te nohoanga i muri. I roto i tenei take, hanga ana e ia kahore tikanga ki te pouri ana ki e kore te mea hoki, e kore e kore e taea te huri, engari me whai wāhi i roto i te whakaritenga o tona ora hou, a kahore ki te ngaro te wā.

A, no te haamata i tatou ki te kite i te āhuatanga noa ki etahi vakai pai, puta te anga. Te faataaraa ko te mate, i roto i te tikanga, me tika na, engari i roto i te rerekē ki te mate o te tetahi aroha, te mate o whanaunga i koe he tupono, ka kia tukurua taua mea katoa, a ka waiho noa pai. kuia New, ngā mātua hou e kore koutou e whai, me te tane hou ranei te wahine ko te tino pea kia puta. Ko te tauhohe kino ki taua ngā he kahore tikanga mahi - kia tetahi raruraru kia tangohia rite te aratohu ki te mahi, no te mea te roa peia koe ratou ki te kokonga o ngā wheako, me te mamae, te atu ka tupu koutou raruraru: a hinengaro, a kāinga me te ao outlook.

Ka rite ki Dr. Kurpatov: "Ki te whai koe i haere tahi mea kua he i roto i te whānau - e taea te mohio a te reira rite te ati, me te timata roa te haere o te mamae. A ka taea te mohio a koe ka rite ki te wero - "?! Ahau wiri ahau mea ranei i te tika" Ki te whakaturia koe ä e tika i te utuafare pai, he faaipoiporaa oaoa, whanaunga tonu-parirau, timata koe ki te whakaaro e pā ana ki te pehea, ki te tiki te aha tika koe, kaua ki te whai wāhi i roto i to tatou e fakakomēsialé motu tino - tanu koe ora ". Na te mahi i runga i tou huru hinengaro, rangi i roto i ki te heke mai, ngā tirohanga, i whakaritea ngā whāinga, me te tīmata ki te tango i te takahanga tuatahi ki te ora hou. Ko reira tino uaua, engari e hiahia ana koe ki te tamata puai atu i te tuatahi "tango koe tahi", ētahi wā i te kaha, a ka ka tahuri katoa i roto i!

Ko te wāhi tuarua: whai koe ki te ngana nui taea ki te tango i to ratou wa ki te kitea mahi hou, a ka e titiro, e mea ratou, "haere ki te iwi." Ko e mo'oni, e rapu enei tohutohu rauemi rauemi, engari i te iti rawa kia kotahi e rua ngā tūemi ranei e taea te haere ake koe ki a te whakatinana. Me koe ki te hanga i to outou oraraa tere kaha ake ki te whakaaro e pā ana ki mo'emo'e, e pā ana ki te mea "ko te ora i runga i" tika e kore e whai wa, engari kaua ua, i te tuatahi, i te iti rawa autaki, e kua timata te ora hou. Na ano, o koutou timatanga hou katoa e taea te hoatu e koe nui o ngā whai wāhitanga ki te whakatau iwi hou: hoa, "pai", me te aroha, a pea hira.

1. pakihi New: Training, whakangungu, whakangungu. Tenei ahua o mahi ka āwhina i te whakapai ake te kiritau-, ki ite ratou ake kaha, aravihi, ite tona hiranga. Ka whai koe i ngā whai wāhitanga mahi hou me te opuaraa i roto i te mahi. Raruraru e nga whakaaro, manukanuka me ngā kawenga i roto i enei wā, ka waiho koutou nui iti pea ki te whakaaro e pā ana ki to ratou mau fifi whaiaro.

2. kawea ki te ora iti moe roa-wareware ranei. Whakamātauria ki ite te weriweri, i i whakaaro roa, engari i puritia e maka ana i te reira atu. Hei tauira, ka taea e te mea: tuhi, whakaahua ranei i tetahi atu mahi, skydiving, ngā haerenga, te kohikohi tūemi, hī, me ētahi atu Timata kihai i hiahia ki, e kore e whai te pūngao me te wairua, engari tango i te kaupae tuatahi "i roto i kore e hiahia ki te," a ka matenui, a ka whakawhanake moni i tahaki.

3. Ahua: ataahua tiaki, he kakahu hou. Mahino'i koutou ahua: whakawhirinaki i roto i tona tono - ko te matua ki te angitu i runga i te ara ki te ora hou. I tua atu, ahua pai-a Matiu tuwhena faarahi te tūponotanga o te aro o te takoto te ritenga. E te ara, nga tangata no hoki tenei wāhi - he aha e kore hutia ake ona āhua, e kore e faahanahana i te huruhuru, e kore ki te whakahou i tō kakahu.

4. Sports, tinana, te haukori, me te ake. Te whakapai ake i te ahua me te whakaū i te reo ā-tinana. A i muri i kawea mahi i roto i pūngao kino, he tautuhi ahotea kawenga. Ki te kahore he hoa e tika ana mo taua, pokaia mahi tika te mahi i roto i te omaoma, ka whiriwhiri hoki ratou ranei karapu kanikani mō tīmata i roto i te poirewa, poitūkohu, whutupaoro. He mea harihari, nohopuku, me te waiho i te mau mana'o kino katoa.

5. Leisure, Travel, haere - he ara nui ki te huri i te āhuatanga, ki te riro wheako hou, ki te whakaaro o te ora hou, me te hanga i mohio ngā.

6. Te whakapau atu wa ki hoa, te utuafare, tamata ki te haere ki te kamupene, wharekai, pokapū whakangahau, kōrero. Ko te mea matua - e kore e waiho anake ki whakaaro taimaha.

7. Na tino nui - e kore e wehi o mohio hou ki te takoto ritenga. Ko koe inaianei - he tangata noa, a ka whai i te tika tonu, me te uatoko o, me te ngākau rangitahi, me mo te hononga nui.

Plus, ka puta nga tangata mo etahi wa ki tona matenga ki te haere ki te mahi, a ka faanevaneva i te reira i te whakaaro tōraro, me nga hua o to ratou i pai ai - ka whakapai ake i te mana pāpori, me te pūtea. Ko te ara pai i roto i tenei ano te mea nga tangata uara pērā i "mahi, mahi" kaha whakataetae ki nga kaupapa matua o "hononga whānau", pera ka waiho ratou māmā ki "kitea ratou" i roto i te mahi i tenei wāhi o te wā. Ko wahine e na kore te tūtohu - he nui atu "kōrero, tautoko, aroha", na roto i te tikanga e kore e ki te unu i ki a ratou ano, a kahore e hiahia nui taea ki te kōrero ki te pei i te raruraru me te ahotea i roto i te kokonga rite ki te hunga i aroha, te tautoko whiwhi me te matauranga, na a ki te hoa, kapa, mohio hou.