Me pēhea te ki te ora i te wehenga i te kaumeá

Kua tae mai te wa, ka whawhati koe ki runga ki tou aroha kotahi, engari tae noa ki te kau whakamutunga i whakapono pono koutou e whai koe i te hononga e whakamiharo tika, a kore e wehenga mai. Ahakoa, i nei titiro reira hi'ohi'o, haere mai te reira ki noa te rua o a koutou. Ka taea e te take e he nui nui, engari ehara i te mea nui. Ko te mea matua ko te e he tahi koe kore.

Me pēhea te ki te ora i te wehenga i te kotiro? Mai i taua he tukunga o ngā i roto i te wairua i oke ai tonu parataiao i roto i te puka o ongo me haamana'oraa, maha patu te ngakau o nei me oto o, me hiahia toku ngakau. Hei tīmata, katoa e hiahia ana koe - he ki te ngana ki te wareware te kotiro. Hanga uaua reira, engari ko te tika tenei taahiraa ki te haere i mua i roto i te ora. Hei ora te wehenga i te kotiro, noho iho, me te whai i te whakaaro pai, me ahakoa hiahia koe i te reira rite nui rite whakaaro koutou tohu te reira. Pea e kore he aroha, engari whiwhita anake te mana'o tawhito. Mahalo e ngā koe ki te whakapakoko anake, e kore te tangata ia ia, ranei i koe upoko mo nga rekereke i roto i te aroha ki tona tinana, a kahore e hiahia pūāhua. Riria ahau e taua whanaunga i roto i tonu tetahi atu tau ki te ki tetahi mea e kore koe e arahi ki te pai. Kaua e pouri, e te haere katoa, hari e ko reira koutou.

Ki te feruri i roto i pehea ki te ora i te mahuetanga ki te kaumeá, ngā te painga e kua riro koe e tika ana ki te meka i kua enei whanaunga. Tuatahi, e kore kua whakaohokia koutou na e kore e roro whakawhanake ratou whakaaro ki te whakatau he aha ki te hoko ia mo te hararei. kihai ahau i pai kia haere ki te whare matakitaki, e kore kua rongo matou i te waiata ataahua, me te kore e mohio e pā ana ki te rota o ngā mahi parekareka. Hoki tenei he taea kua reira ki te mea "whakawhetai koe." Ano, inaianei e mohio ana tino koe te take he aha e taea te haukotia te hononga, me aha ngā mahi ka taea e te hanga ora koe i te wehenga i te kotiro. I roto i te heke mai, taua ka kore e whakaaetia koe ki te tupu. Ko te whakarau ano tataki koe ki te ara tika, na i runga i, te whakamahi i tona wheako, titiro hoki ia anake, a kahore e tamata ki hoki te mua. Whakapono ahau, kahore he mea e e te tauturu ia koe e kore e ki te whakaaro e pā ana ki te pehea, ki te ora i te mahuetanga ki tona aroha kotiro rite rapu mō te aroha hou.

Ehara i te mea e tika ana ki te ui i te uiraa "Ko wai te mea ki te kupu", "i teie nei haere ahau ki te mahi i," "pehea ki te tahuri hoki te karaka," etc. Smer ki te meka e kua haere te aroha, kia rite ki te wa e kua kē mua e kore ki te hoki mai. A i roto i te tikanga ki te wareware hohoro i mea ai koe, hoatu i roto i to ratou whare, maka atu mea katoa e fakamanatu koutou o te mua, ūkui koutou waea i te karere, me te muku whakaahua katoa i tō rorohiko. Ehara i tetahi kupu, e kore tetahi pūāhua ahanoa ranei kahore e whai ki te whakamahara koe e pā ana ki to koutou aroha mua.

Ehara i ki te whakaaro, me pehea ki te ora i te mahuetanga ki te kaumeá, a tika wareware e pā ana ki reira, korero ki a matou e pā ana ki tona break ki aku hoa katoa me i mohio. A pure e wa katoa te whakatau ia koe ratou tautoko ki a koutou. Tino nui - e kore e tīmata ki te whakatupu kino i te waipiro, kia rite ki te mahi tokomaha. Tenei ka meinga anake te mana'o o te tatarahapa i roto i nga kanohi o koutou hoa, ai e te tiki i te whakapono teka e he koe he wimp, karanga atu - no te "wahine". Katoa e kore i mahia e koe i te reira mo te pai. Hei whakatutuki i te raruraru o "me pehea ki te ora i te mahuetanga ki toku kaumeá," e te tangata he marama, te tangata he tau, me etahi ora katoa. Heoi, i muri i 10-12 ra koutou e kore e tonu whakaaro e pā ana ki tona mate, engari i muri i rua wiki kia taea ki te tīmata i te ora hou koutou. e kore Whakamātauria ki te noho i te kāinga i roto i tenei wā anake, a ki te koutou noho tonu, e kore e mangere, ki te tuhituhi ki raro o koutou whakaaro ki runga ki te pepa. Ae, ko reira i runga i te pepa. Haere i te rātaka, ranei "ora" e makasini i runga i te Ipurangi. Communication ki tangata ke e ka hoatu tohutohu me te āwhina i ki te kitea te otinga tika, me pehea ki te ora i te mahuetanga ki te kaumeá.

Ko tētahi atu huarahi nui ko ki te haere ki te omaoma. Tenei ka hoatu koe nui te māia, me te whakaarahia tūmanako mo te aha e taea e koe te utu ki te tiki i tino mea katoa e hiahia ana koe i roto i to outou oraraa. Na kia mahara e he koe te tangata e Ko te ahei o nui ake.