He hōtaka mātauranga poto: he aha ngā pātai ka taea e koe ui i te taata e pai?

Ki te kei koe he kotiro, me te rite koe he taata, na koutou tino e kore e matau me pehea ki te whakahaere ia ratou ki reira tika, e kore e hanga i taua i te hinga, e kore e ki te pana atu ia. Enei āhuatanga puta te wa katoa, kia hiahia koe ki te whakawhanake i ō rātou ake tātai me te whanonga me te kōrero, i roto i te tikanga ki te whakatutuki i te auetanga ahanoa. I roto i tenei tuhinga, ka korero matou ki a koutou e pā ana ki tetahi pātai ka taea e koe ui i te taata rite koe, he aha e taea e koe te kōrero ki a ia (i tua atu i te mea paerewa). Ka ako ano hoki e koe te mea rite kore te mea e tika ana ki te kōrero ki te tangata taitamariki.

He aha ngā pātai taea ui te taata e pai ki te rā?

Hei timata, kia tautuhi a mohio koe mo te wa roa tata ranei? I roto i te take tuatahi, ko nui ohie te āhuatanga: no te mea he pono mohio koe he rota e pā ana ki taua mea, ka taea ki te matau e tona reka, me te mea e kore, tae atu ki te pā ki kōrero. A i roto i te take tuarua te mea e tika ana ki te tango i te rawa o tohutohu i runga i te mea e mau uiraa taea e koe te ui i te taata, e rite:

• A ani ia te wahi ako ia ranei ako, he aha ngā kaupapa kei ia hiahia i roto i te āhua o kite ia tona mahi i roto i te heke mai.

• A ani i, pehea e noho koutou to koutou wa noa, ahakoa te arearea (ki te ae, na te 15-20 meneti e whai ake nei ka whakarongo koe ki ana kōrero e pā ana ki te kohinga o mihini, mamau, me te pera i runga i).

• Ki te matau koutou e te taata koe faaite ngākau nuitanga noa me runaruna, ka kore e mangere, ki te whakaae i te reira, hoki koutou anake ka waiho hei tāpiri.

• Tetahi atu pātai, ka taea e koe ui i te taata e pai? A ani i te mea pai ia teata (kiriata, kiriata tino, kaiwhakaari, me pera i runga i), korero ki a matou e pā ana ki o koutou manakohanga. Ko te kupu, e kore anake e koe ako atu e pā ana ki te tangata taitama, engari ano hoki e taea ki te fakaafe'i ia ata i runga i te rā tuarua, hei tauira, i roto i te kiriata.

• Ki te e wahi koutou rā i roto i te wharekai wharekai ranei, ui te taata te mea ia pai ki te kai i te nuinga o te katoa, i roto i te whakarara ki te whakamanamana e ratou pūkenga tunu (o te akoranga, ki te whai koe i tetahi).

• A ani i atu e pā ana ki ona mahi, mahi, me te mea he kau i roto i maha ngā kōrero e pā ana ki te āhua o huihui kirihou matapihi, me e pā ana ki te āhuatanga o tenei mahi, he taata, ka whakarongo āta ki reira, ara, ki te kahore te mahi koutou rawa ngā, a kahore e hawhe matau i te ngā.

• e kore e wehi ki te ui mo te tohutohu i runga i tetahi take i roto i nei te tangata matau. Ko te kupu ka riro koe tona tūranga, me te āwhina i ki a ia ite atu maramarama (i te tino nui o nga tane hoki).

Ui te aha kia karohia?

He aha ngā pātai taea ui te taata rite koe, matou e matau kua, inaianei ko reira e tika ana ki te kitea i roto i te mea e kore e taea e koutou e ui:

• e pā ana ki pūrākau o mua (o te akoranga, ki te kore e tīmata i te taata ia korero e pā ana ki reira);

• pēhea te maha tamariki e hiahia ana ratou me ka whakamahere ki te tiki faaipoipo (e whakawehi tenei ara te taata ki te whāinga nui);

• pātai e pā ana ki ngā kaupapa matua i roto i te ora (hei tauira, "koe whiriwhiri ahau ranei toku hoa ');

• Kaua e ui pātai o te taata rite koe, e pā ana ki te kaupapa o tona kakahu (hei tauira, "He aha ta koutou whakaaro, Kei te haere ahau tenei utu kākahu ranei whiriwhiri i te tae rerekē").

Summary: he aha ngā pātai rite eé?

Pātai kore e e hāngai ki te whanaungatanga mua, tou heke mai tahi me te whakarato i te whai wāhi ki te tangata taitamariki ki te whakaatu ratou anake ki te ringa pai, o te akoranga, kia reka ki a ia. Rawa i runga i te rā tuatahi, a ka ahu te taata me te kotiro ki te whakatuwhera ake ki tetahi ki tetahi, me te pai o kita.