Me pēhea te ki te tono ki te whakatau i te kotiro?

Taiohitanga - wā kaua matatini me te nui i roto i te ora o te tangata katoa. Kākaá, maximalism me te whakapono i mahi mea katoa te tika, a ka mea te reira ke e kore e matau koutou te mau metua e te tamata ki te wahi i me te tahi mea ki te whakaako (etahi tito rite te mea te reira).

Ko te wa faingataa ki te aroha. I roto i te aparauraa ki te kotiro e rite, ite koe rite te hero, he rawa mahara, kaha, me te tukua, engari whakaaro e i tenei wāhi korero ia e pā ana ki ona mau mana'o, a vahi i te wiki katoa i roto i. Koe e kore noa e mohio me pehea ki te tono ki te whakatau i te kotiro. He whakamataku ki te whakaae, mataku ki te whakatuwhera ake i te reira - me ohorere kata koe tika i roto i tou mata?

Me koe ki te rangi i roto i ki te mea e kore e pera tonu e taea te haere tonu, e hiahia ana koe ki te tīmata ki te tango i whakatau, me te ki kia taea ki te whakaae ratou mau mana'o.

I mua i whakahere koe ki te whakatau i te kotiro, e hiahia ana koe ki te faaineine i āta mo te whakahaere. Kaua e wehi o te mea ia "otoshet" ka hanga e koe te titiro poauau me te ngoikore. Kia mahara, e kore e taea e ngoikore anake kōrero e pā ana ki o ratou mau mana'o, me hiahia, me tuakiri kaha ahei ki te whakarite ira te "i". I roto i te mutunga, kite koutou e pai ia koutou, rawa, ka hopoia tu atu ia i te tahi atu eé ranei. Heoi i reira he take ki. Ehara i tika, o te akoranga, e te tahu ia ki weriweri, pea kei koe pukuaroha ki a ia, engari i te katoa ko te mea e tika ana ki te ako me te whakatau. Mahalo koutou puru hononga tika no te mea koutou e kore e matau me pehea ki te whakahere, ki te whakatau i te kotiro no o te wehi o te paopao ia.

Hei whakaaro i roto i te mua i reira e waiho ai māmā ki te kōrero ki a koutou. Ki te kahore koe e mohio me pehea ki te whakahere, ki te whakatau i te kotiro, engari hiahia ki te mahi i reira, e kore e waiho te reira rite ko koe i runga i te whutupaoro te ware, i te mea kiano i matao ranei e tata ana te tomokanga ki te kōrero e pā ana ki to ratou mau mana'o?

He mea nui hoki ki te whakatau i te wahi i reira whakaae koe ki te kotiro o tona mana'o. Pea ka waiho hei wharekai iti ki te whai koe i nui te moni pute, tika he haere i roto i te papa rēhia, pea pai ia ki te whangai i nga kukupa ranei. E mea titauhia hoki ki a koe hei anake.

Na, he aha ki te mahi me te pehea, ki te whakahere, ki te whakatau i te kotiro? Tuatahi o te katoa, me i mua koe ki te kitea i te kupu tika. kia mea katoa i runga i te taumata teitei, arā, kia haere kōrero rite korero ki ngā pakeke iwi nui. E kore e te whakahaere, kia piua me hāngai, pērā i "E rongo koe, a ka kei hauhautanga koutou, kia whakaoho ake koe!". Tenei e kore e kino ia anake te kotiro, ko ia me te tahuri atu i a koutou, ka rite ki te kotiro - hanga he pakarukaru, dreamy me taua kīanga reira tika tawai. He rehabilitated ka tino uaua kia, no te mea ka whakama te reira i roto ia koutou.

O te akoranga, e kore koutou e mohio me pehea ki te tīmata i roto i ki te kotiro, me te kei koe te mataku, engari e hiahia ana koe ki te whai i te itoito no te faaineine no te te whakahaere.

Me koe ki mua-tīpako kupu ki e timata koe ki te korero. O te akoranga, kia waiho ai te parau mau pono e pā ana ki taua kotiro rite koe, te ataahua, atamai, ia me kore e rite te reira, na reira he tahi mea i roto i te mea i taua e rata ana koe.

Ehara i eé ponana, me te mea "i te ngakau". Ahakoa, ki te kei koe te kīkiki iti - e kore e whakamataku, ngā ara tākaro reira koe "i ringa", ka whakapono ia e he tinihanga, na māharahara koe.

Ano, i reira kia kia kore pia ngaungau, tītipi me te mea katoa atu. taea e tenei katoa i muri i te kōrero.

Mea atu ia e he pai ki a reira ki reira koutou, a e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi i reira atu maha. I te haere, haere ki te pikitia, te faahee ra, me te pera i runga i.

Ki te whakaae ia ki te waiho to koutou kaumeá - pai, kua tae te whāinga, me kei koutou hari. Na ka mahara koe ki te kata e tere me kihai i mohio me pehea ki te here i te hononga ki te kotiro.

Ki te i he koe, a ka korerotia e ia ki a koutou e kore ko reira rite, me te kore e hiahia, ranei te tahi mea rite taua - e kore e e pouri, karangatia ki a ia hei hoa pai tika. Well, he aha e kore e koutou e tahuri, a kahore e haere atu ki tona upoko ki raro? Me hoki to tatou he tikanga o te kiritau-. No, kahore he ara, ka tika kia hoa rite i mua. Na nga kotiro i roto i to outou oraraa, ko tonu Aue te nui!